Code of Ethics

The first I heard of the Costa Concordia cruise ship partially sinking off the coast of Italy was when I stumbled onto some very striking photos on Tumblr. The images of this mammoth ship listing on its side seemed surreal at first, and certainly brought to mind recollections of the Titanic. As the number of missing has grown each time I check my news feeds, it seems, I also noticed that, among the charges pending against the captain of the ship are abandoning his vessel while passengers were still aboard.

This, of course, makes me think of the “captain going down with his ship” concept that we’ve heard in stories for a long time. Of course, there’s no law indicating that a captain has to sink and lose his or her life if their vessel goes under, at least not that I’m aware of, or that I can imagine. I was unaware that it is illegal for a captain to abandon his or her passengers, however, but I find it interesting and appropriate that there is a legal code for this.

This sparked a discussion with Karen and I about legal codes versus ethical codes. Perhaps, I thought, the “captain goes down with his ship” is more of an old ethical code than anything else…an understanding of dedication to the duty that is included with your vocation or lifestyle. This isn’t something along the lines of a police officer encountering a crime when off-duty, as a peace officer is a sworn public servant, and typically must intervene anyway. This is more along the lines of a physician following his or her sworn oath to the healing arts if, for example, driving onto the scene of an accident and choosing to render aid to the victims. When one chooses to be a physician, one recognizes that they are undertaking the burden of this ethical code. Different vocations and professions have different ethical codes, something by which those entering the profession agree to be bound. Health care and educational professionals, for example, are mandated reporters in almost every state in the U.S., and this requirement often doesn’t stop within the bounds of their professional practice.

So, the idea of a captain allegedly abandoning their vessel while imperiled passengers and crew were still aboard strikes me as a particularly dishonorable action. While there are many so-called good Samaritans in the world who will voluntarily place themselves at risk to help those in danger, there are those who voluntarily undertake the ethical, if not legal, obligation to do so under certain circumstances. Failure to uphold that ethical responsibility is a personal failure of the highest calibre.

Perhaps the issue is that we are not placed in situations requiring us to uphold these ethical codes that frequently? Perhaps its easy to say that we would place ourselves in harm’s way to help someone in need, but the situation looks quite differently if we actually find ourselves in that situation. Perhaps a fight, flight, or freeze response can overtake even the strongest of us in the right circumstances, forcing a response contrary to what we know we should do. Its interesting, however, to think that we might choose and make a commitment to a profession in which such an ethical (or legal) code were required of us, and then fail to keep it at a critical moment. I guess that failure sort of makes the rest of us feel betrayed.

Perhaps we should show more grace to each other, recognizing that everyone make serious errors?

I’m interested to see if this captain’s actions prove intentionally avoidant, or simply fearfully negligent. I’m also interested to see what consequences are enforced as an outcome.

The greatest compliment that you can pay to a book you love isn’t the sparkling review that you blog after you’ve finished, nor how many stars you “rate” the book. It isn’t even the conversation in a coffee shop with a friend in which you go on and on about how amazing a book you’ve read. The greatest compliment that you can pay to a book you love…and to its author…is lending that book to someone else, and letting them experience what you have experienced. That is what I hope happens to someone with my writing, because it is the highest honor for the author of those words you love. 

Simplistic Interlude

I like simple, streamlined, and uncomplicated lately. I’m particularly attracted to things that work smoothly. Minimalist is a word that comes to mind.

I think that appreciating minimalism brings about these moments of clarity because you become more focused on the basic. You take these interludes that orient you to these really huge moments in life that we experience every day but that would normally fly by us because we would be so intense with the business, with the complex.

While Karen was away teaching her night class at the end of the week, I was home with our daughter, who had spent most of her day much, much fussier than usual. The night was complicated, as only a night with a crying baby and a new dad attempting to decipher what’s wrong with said crying baby in order to fix it, can be. When all was said and done, though, and she had finally quieted down and become content, I looked down at her while I was rocking her to sleep and she was looking up at me, making eye contact in a way that communicated that she completely trusted me to take care of her, to place her welfare before my own, to not let her down.

That was a such a simple moment. And it was a moment of earth-shattering clarity. The sort of moment that you don’t walk away from the same as before you experienced it.

I’m so glad that I was paying attention.

I hope your weekend is full of enough pauses to appreciate the moments that you’ll experience.

Life isn’t a competition in which “he who dies with the most toys wins.” When we fight each other, or steal, because of material things, we are de-humanizing each other. There comes a point at which we are serving our technology, when instead the inverse was intended to be true.

Socialite

Its no secret that I’ve been accused of being an early adopter…its actually something in which I sort of pride myself. I see it as being a sort of risk-taker…you never know if that great new device or service is really going to prove itself worthy of what you just paid for it.

With social media, however, there’s a little less of a risk. I’ve been an early adopter, there, as well…while I joined the blogosphere somewhat late (I started this space in 2005, and it has evolved with me into something very different since then), I set up a Facebook profile when Facebook was new and all the rage (remember back when you had to be enrolled in an academic institution to set up an account?). Since then, I’ve jumped on some social media, and avoided others (Foursquare? No thanks.). I use social media for which I can realistically see a use or benefit, and sometimes begrudgingly hold onto social media profiles only because I can still see a benefit.

A few months ago, a blogger I follow regularly posted a list of the social media sites that he uses regularly, and asked his readers to comment with theirs. I did, and I was amazed at how many social media sites I use. Certainly, social media has changed our world, altered the ways in which we interact with each other forever, and guided us to new people with whom we can interact. My commenting on his post drove that fact home to me, and I thought it would be interesting for you, as well. So, just for fun and a break from my usual blogging fare, I thought I’d do something similar. Here are the social media sites I use, and how (or why) I use them.

Facebook. I have a personal Facebook profile, and I keep it locked down pretty tightly. This blog, of course, also has a Facebook page. Personally, I’m over Facebook. As its privacy thresh hold becomes lower, and as it leaves its niche to attempt to do everything (first it attempted to copy Twitter with streams of status updates, now it offers video chat…really??), I find myself posting to Facebook very sparingly, and use my personal account only because it is the easiest way in which to contact several of my friends (and, perhaps for sentimental reasons, as well).

Twitter. I love Twitter. I love the people I meet there from various backgrounds and disciplines, I love the real-time nature of it, I love the casual conversations that are sparked there. I love the interesting links that I discover that I otherwise wouldn’t, and the absolutely hysterical humor that can brighten my day. If all you ever do is tweet about the meetings you go to or how when you’re talking on your iPhone, I won’t follow you. Give me a stream full of interesting links or quips, and my attention is yours.

Tumblr is a recent venue for me, but I’ve already met fascinating people. I love the simplicity of Tumblr, how its not about how many people you follow, and how it is full of great art, beautiful images, and thought-provoking quotes. Tumblr receives far more of my time than Facebook, and I’ve turned it into sort of a collection of the things that inspire me to write, both here and elsewhere.

Google+ is the site that I truly wish would replace Facebook, and is perfectly capable of doing so. Because my blogging activities are tied into my Google profile, this one is important to me. However, while I’m connected to a relatively large number of family and friends there, not many of them use Google+ regularly, so my activity there is unfortunately limited until everyone recognizes how superior it is to Facebook. Of course, I have a YouTube account associated with this, but use it rarely. I aggregate my RSS feeds with Google Reader, and share interesting posts occasionally that way, as well.

LinkedIn is valuable for keeping in touch with present and former colleagues. I’m careful about my connections there, and its one of those sites I have a feeling will become much more useful in the future, so I’m keeping it around.

Goodreads is where I keep track of my voracious reading appetite, and chat about good books with good friends. I’ve began to connect more and more with other writers that I’ve met on Twitter, there, and I’ll eventually set up an author page…I just haven’t gotten around to that, yet (once I finish the work-in-progress, I think).

Delicious was a network I joined several years ago. Its one of those profiles that you forget you have until there’s a link to a site that you really need to store somewhere for future reference, and keep it with other similar links, and then suddenly Delicious is the most valuable profile you have. I don’t use the social aspect of Delicious as much…its a repository for my bookmarks.

Instapaper is something I don’t know how I survived without. Its simply a place to put all of those stories and articles and posts that you know you want to read, but just don’t have time to read at the moment you find them. Instapaper is amazing!

Of course, other sites have come and gone, but this is quite enough to manage, don’t you think? When I consider how integral these sites have become to my daily routine, I’m quite amazed.

What social media do you use on a regular basis? How has it impacted your life, for better or worse?

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